When you grew up in an environment where connection meant danger, your nervous system learned to associate other people with threat. Maybe reaching out for comfort got you dismissed. Or criticized. Or hurt. Maybe the adults in your life were unpredictable, so you learned it was safer to handle things alone.

Anxiety is a natural, adaptive response. It’s your brain looking ahead and scanning for danger—trying to keep you safe. 

You don’t have to overhaul your life to feel fulfilled. You just have to start making small decisions that reflect what you value. Maybe that’s reaching out to a friend instead of scrolling, or taking a walk instead of pushing through one more task. Fulfillment grows from moments of alignment, not from achievement.

If you’re dreading Valentine’s Day because it feels like a spotlight on what’s missing in your life, you’re not alone.