The vast majority of people that I've worked with in my psychotherapy practice for more than a decade want to feel more peace. In fact, I've known very few people in general who don't wish to have more peace in their life (myself included!).

So I've been paying close attention to what actually makes a difference. And I've discovered 5 habits that you don't want to ignore.

I've explored what the research has to say about it, what science can contribute, and where spirituality has an impact. While I do personally practice these strategies, I will never claim to have them down perfectly. But I honestly don't think you need to practice them perfectly in order to experience significant benefit.

Just getting started makes all the difference.

1) Feeling connected to a loving Higher Guidance. According to research, you don’t need to believe in God or belong to a religion in order to feel at peace. So if God or formal religion doesn’t work for you, that’s a-okay. What does promote peace is feeling connected to something greater than yourself, an energy or concept of love, compassion, and wisdom that is an ever present, guiding, and reliable force in your life.

2): Practicing embodiment. Embodiment means being in and consciously connected to your body. You’re aware of the sensations in your body, you’re aware of your breathing, and you’re aware of your emotions. When you are consciously connected and present to your body, then you are able to regulate or manage your thoughts and feelings with greater ease. 

3): Defining what matters most to you. Having clarity on your aspirations, the kind of person you want to be, the kind of life you want to live, and the kind of impact you want to have in the world helps with decision making and gives you a deeper sense of meaning and purpose. When you know who you are and what you are about, you no longer need to turn to other people for every little thing. Yes, sometimes it’s still helpful to seek wise counsel. However, you will experience more inner peace when you know who you are, what you stand for, and what you want, and then act accordingly.

4): Developing a healthy relationship with yourself. In order to cultivate healthy relationships with other people, you need to cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of all other relationships. Your external relationships actually mirror your internal relationship with yourself. So if your external relationships cause you a lot of stress, it’s time to go inward and get in right relationship with yourself.

5): Building trust. Peace is an absolute impossibility without trust. Without trust, we remain in a state of fear. For example, if I don’t trust that the chair I’m sitting on is going to hold me up, I’m going to spend a lot of emotional and mental energy fearing the chair falling out from under me. If I'm talking with a friend, I won't even be paying attention to what they're saying because I'll be too busy thinking about the chair. But when I trust that the chair going to hold me, I feel safe, secure, and free to just be myself. This is the kind of relationship we want to have with ourselves and our Higher Power. Solid trust creates freedom and peace.

While none of these practices require perfection, simply taking the first steps toward implementing them can have a huge impact on your life satisfaction and sense of well-being. Remember, peace isn't found in the absence of challenges but how we respond to them. It's in our capacity to navigate them with grace, resilience, and trust.